Can we have it all? What exactly is having it "all"? Should we even be seeking "all"? This episode I discuss work life balance from my own life experiences, and from a biblical perspective. I also share my podcast and YouTube recommendations and answer a question about Christian hypocrisy.
I’m back and blessed, here to share with you another episode of the podcast. Informal and intimate, I talk about my recent battles with depression, self care, seeking God and a therapist, setting expectations in relationships and dating practices. A little all over the place, but a lot of honesty. It feels good to be back :)
The topic that’s on everyone’s mind that’s rarely talked about: Sex and Celibacy. Let’s talk about it. This episode we talk about why God tells us to abstain, how to date while celibate and create boundaries, and I answer the questions you sent in!
We often have the audacity to tell God what we can and cannot do. We tell him we're not good enough, we're not qualified enough. sometimes we have been told over and over again that we aren't good enough and we begin to believe it. This episode we remind ourselves that we need to think bigger than our limitations.
In a world where so many are looking to money, fame, and success, we know to turn to God for true happiness. In this episode, I discuss the key to happiness and answer a question sent in by a person who finds herself for the first time not dating someone and not knowing what to do with herself.
You got the degree...now what? This episode, with a little black girl magic, we discuss getting the path to the degree and discovering your purpose along the way. This episode I share some bible verses to help you get through each semester, I interview Danielle Bell, PhD student and founder/lead editor of Mertina Writing Services, and answer some questions you sent in for us to answer!
Bible Verses for This Episode:
Luke 12:6-7 ESV "Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows."
Proverbs 2:1-5 ESV "My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you, making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God."
2 Corinthians 9:6 ESV "The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully."
Being a millennial has it's challenges; add being a black Christian and it's a whole different story! This episode Nissi interviews Gerry Fortilus, founder of "What We Wear 2 Church" who is a youth ministry leader and black millennial Christian (12:35). We discuss what's unique about this generation of Christians, the challenges we face, and issues in the black church today.
Nissi also answers a question about feeling the need to constantly fix yourself (59:00), and has a special announcement at the end of the episode (1:04:30)!
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In the words of Pastor Howard-John Wesley, "Daily you have to make a decision between doing what you are called to do, and doing what others expect you to do. Because people's expectations will add stress to your life, but God's calling adds fulfillment to your life."
You may not have found your calling because you are too busy listening to everyone else's expectations and not enough time listening to God. This is your wake up call beloved.
How do I adult? This podcast episode we focus on that big question, as well as the questions that you sent in to me about being an adult. We talk about growing up in our faith, and also in our day to day lives. You don't wake up one day and suddenly feel like an adult. You're an adult when you realize that your success and your happiness are all in your hands.
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In this episode we talk about friendship; the good, the bad, the ugly. We discuss the difference between good and toxic friendships and I give some tips on how to make friends. Follow along this episode with the worksheet down below.
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In church we know that when the pastor says "God is Good" we are supposed to say "All The time" Despite the fact that this is our automatic response, there are times when we struggle and wonder, is God really good? When things are hard? When people Die? When the world is in chaos? Lets have an open conversation about whether or not God is Good when things are bad.
In this episode, for Spiritual Care (07:50), we answer the question "When things are Bad is God Still Good?" In the Self Care section (30:30), we discuss talking to parents about mental health. And I answer a listener's question (40:30) about advice for getting closer to a significant other's parents.
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Hello Beloved. After a month of highs and lows, My Strength and My Shield is back with an episode about the transition from summer fun to fall work. Whether you're going back to school or need that extra push for work, this episode we talk about being motivated and organized for the next chapter in your life. I also answer a question about how to deal with friends that you lose along the way.
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Happy New Year Beloved! We have found ourselves in a new year, with new excitement, new opportunities and new goals. This episode we discuss how we can orient ourselves to set goals for a productive and positive new year. We discuss bible verses that remind us it's ok to set new year's resolutions, and ways to actually succeed in those new year's resolutions. I also share my own new year's resolutions, and answer an important question about how to handle old friendships when trying to be a new Christian.
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I recently had a friend who is going through a tough tough time of unimaginable pain, share with me that what she was most frustrated about was that she did not know how she was supposed to feel, or what she was supposed to do. I talked to her about the importance of allowing herself the space to feel, without judgment.
One of the biggest issues that we have is that we feel bad about feeling bad. Or we feel ashamed of feeling ashamed. Or we feel like a failure for having feelings. Or we feel stupid for not being over something.
It is like our minds are in survival mode. The mind’s reaction is to see a problem and try to solve it. It is instinctual to see your feelings as a something that you need to fix or that you have to get over.
The issue is that what your mind logically wants is different than what your mind emotionally needs. Because while your mind is trying to get over your emotions, you actually need to deal with and process those feelings. to allow yourself the space to confront and process and ultimately learn; learn how to avoid certain situations, or learn how to process these feelings if they come up in the future.
I encourage you to fight that instinct that causes you to judge your feelings. Your feelings and your reactions are valid. If it takes a week, a month, a year, 10 years to get through something, then so be it. Rushing through emotions does not solve anything and only delays the time when eventually you will crack. That is why there are times when something small will cause us to have "overreactions." It's usually tied to a point in time when we avoided dealing with our feelings and so those feelings came out in unexpected or dangerous ways.
Tell your mind to cut it out when it tells you that your emotions are a problem to be solved. Reprogram yourself to be patient with your emotions and dealing with them.
"Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city."